tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.comments2023-03-31T08:36:33.407-04:00Young With the Soul of an Old ManSouledOuthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05695424474927391869noreply@blogger.comBlogger102125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-77282760214853724042009-04-06T22:20:00.000-04:002009-04-06T22:20:00.000-04:00...Good post!...I think the reasons you've discuss......Good post!...I think the reasons you've discussed apply to all who've cheated, men and women alike. IMO, a lot of infideltiy stems from insecurity issues within the relationship. Secure individuals in secure relationships are socially equipped in removing themselves from tempting situations and without compromising what they already have. <BR/><BR/>A relationship doesn't have to begin with issues, but they definately can develop. It all depends on how they're handled. I think that if both parties aren't willing to discuss and resolve issues such as insecurity, infidelty is then allowed to manifest itself.<BR/><BR/>I hear all the time (usually from guys) that it's easier for women to resist temptation based on the premise that women are approached more often than men. While I don't believe that's entirely true (temptation resistance), I do believe that if you're secure (don't cheat yourself either) and in a secure relaionship, temptation won't even be an issue. <BR/><BR/>Not to go off on a tangent, but a lot of times we include others and their opinions in our relationships as soon as an issue presents itself. We say we want someone to advise, when in the moment we really want someone to agree with our sentiments. Though it is nice to seek advice and vent to someone, the idea is to be comfortable enough to go to the person you're in a relationship with to arrive at a resolution. Usually, however you presnet your feelings to your friends is EXACTLY what your significant other needs to hear.~Keshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11799463189614472963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-701820818694167302009-04-06T22:17:00.000-04:002009-04-06T22:17:00.000-04:00...Good post!...I think the reasons you've discuss......Good post!...I think the reasons you've discussed apply to all cheater, men and women alike. IMO, a lot of infideltiy stems from insecurity issues within the relationship. Secure individuals in secure relationships are socially equipped in removing themselves from tempting situations and without compromising what they already have. <BR/><BR/>A relationship doesn't have to begin with issues, but they definately can develop. It all depends on how they're handled. I think that if both parties aren't willing to discuss and resolve issues such as insecurity, infidelty is then allowed to manifest itself.<BR/><BR/>I hear all the time (usually from guys) that it's easier for women to resist temptation based on the premise that women are approached more often than men. While I don't believe that's entirely true (temptation resistance), I do believe that if you're secure (don't cheat yourself either) and in a secure relaionship, temptation won't even be an issue. <BR/><BR/>Not to go off on a tangent, but a lot of times we include others and their opinions in our relationships as soon as an issue presents itself. We say we want someone to advise, when in the moment we really want someone to agree with our sentiments. Though it is nice to seek advice and vent to someone, the idea is to be comfortable enough to go to the person you're in a relationship with to arrive at a resolution. Usually, however you presnet your feelings to your friends is EXACTLY what your significant other needs to hear.~Keshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11799463189614472963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-74781106335352200062009-03-09T22:46:00.000-04:002009-03-09T22:46:00.000-04:00Very interesting answers. I have actually read the...Very interesting answers. I have actually read the book and found it very enlightening. Wrote down a few pointers cuz I borrowed someones copy. <BR/><BR/>TashaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-83533580939474926192009-03-01T14:24:00.000-05:002009-03-01T14:24:00.000-05:00Well done as usual. It's good that a man hears thi...Well done as usual. It's good that a man hears this from another man. When men hear women address their concerns about these same issues they say we're "nagging", and all but tune us out. All points I like equally but the one that I really relate to is #6..stop accepting all these "relationship" type favors if you aren't ready for the relationship..that's all i'm saying. Keep up the great work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-40897113518816139622009-02-17T21:26:00.000-05:002009-02-17T21:26:00.000-05:00Where do I start? Me and Lavoyce were in the milit...Where do I start? Me and Lavoyce were in the military together, became friends, & eventually lovers for a short period of time I've been thinking about him for a great while now>>especially after Katrina. We lost contact but I still loved him dearly>> Im heart broken to see that he has passed on. I wasnt expecting to see this..just hoping to get back in contact with him.. my prayers are with the family immensely>> I really am sorry and extremely saddened by this.> DAMN!!!!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-39862488094986763912008-09-08T10:14:00.000-04:002008-09-08T10:14:00.000-04:00You should invest in some Donna Karan.You should invest in some Donna Karan.Beautiful Surprisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18182759749135553034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-5555308150650805962008-08-20T11:46:00.000-04:002008-08-20T11:46:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday to youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuHappy Birthd...Happy Birthday to youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu<BR/><BR/>Happy Birthday to youuuuuuuuBeautiful Surprisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18182759749135553034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-25367209884709754582008-08-18T13:32:00.000-04:002008-08-18T13:32:00.000-04:00folks always take stuff out of persepctiveNice spo...folks always take stuff out of persepctive<BR/><BR/>Nice spot u have here, hope u don’t mind the drive by, do chk me out one day <BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://rawdawgb.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">rawdawgbuffalo</A> and if u like what u read, maybe u will come back, even <A HREF="http://rpc.blogrolling.com/rss.php?r=dcf9226b6b395b40736199410e9f411e" REL="nofollow">Blog Roll Me</A>All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-16165413546266322882008-08-17T22:46:00.000-04:002008-08-17T22:46:00.000-04:00Wow!! Brandon, you have read me inside and out...I...Wow!! Brandon, you have read me inside and out...I was on a journey this weekend and some of the issues you mention in your blog I had to come face to face with...I often wondered why I am single and I realized some of the things I was doing to push very good men away......I wanted a commitment without putting in the work. I am on a journey to complete me and when thats done, then and only then will I be at my best. I have met a guy a few months ago and from the very first meeting he was talking relationship and that scared me but I saw myself in what he was doing....so I thank you my friend....I love your intellect...truly amazing!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-47967155472605737442008-08-15T15:03:00.000-04:002008-08-15T15:03:00.000-04:00I must say that I took my lunch break at work and ...I must say that I took my lunch break at work and read you blog. Know I read everything you send me and let me first say you are so talented. I can feel everything you say in this blog. I am guilty of a lot of the things that you have spoken of here. I can say that I am a work in process and I am going to take your words of wisdom in to consideration. At least the part about being honest and not going on assumtions alone just because I am afraid of a little rejection. You keep on beng who you are honest and all and it will all fall into place. Know I am now a true fan. Will be looking to hear and see more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-21324793608999295292008-02-20T11:00:00.000-05:002008-02-20T11:00:00.000-05:00Very well written! I forgot to share this with yo...Very well written! I forgot to share this with you yesterday when I was giving you my take on "Heartbreaker" Even good men end up alone. Although you've said here that you would rather be TOTALLY alone, I know thats not true. In order for people to be on the same page with you, you have to let them read the book, they have to know what your INTENTIONS are. I can't be on the same page with you if I don't know what book you're reading from. At some point in the "getting to know you stage" it is a must you share with these women that you're not looking for a "relationship"<BR/>I think you need to do a part 2 to this blog based on a look within. I'm not going to post what we talked about yesterday, that's way too much. <BR/><BR/>AJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-81765209048330306502008-02-17T21:49:00.000-05:002008-02-17T21:49:00.000-05:00Nice and well spoken, but I got you on something a...Nice and well spoken, but I got you on something and I want to see how you're going to justify this one. I appreciate you more than a relationship and you KNOW this without a shadow of a doubt. I dont feel like some things were done RIGHT and I will speak on it ANYWHERE I feel the need. <BR/>I NEVER HAVE A PROBLEM WITH A MAN AND HIS FEMALE FRIENDS...It was HOW IT WAS HANDLED. Im far from insecure so NO FEMALE can intimidate ME. REAL TALK...I told u once before that...Glad to see I can still help you out on these blogs. MAKES ME SHIVER!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-64731351842656665762008-02-11T02:13:00.000-05:002008-02-11T02:13:00.000-05:00Well friday and saturday was a LOVELY DAY!!! HUGS ...Well friday and saturday was a LOVELY DAY!!! HUGS and KISSES to my schmoopy EVERYDAY!!!!...Dont give up on me NOW. Im learning remember, and if you do then what would that make you???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-64379320044777394412008-02-06T15:18:00.000-05:002008-02-06T15:18:00.000-05:00U should B Easy...THATS ONCE!!!U should B Easy...THATS ONCE!!!The Growing of Miss. Samuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16596336689331063781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-52757566973363507182008-02-06T15:14:00.000-05:002008-02-06T15:14:00.000-05:00hhhmmmmmmmmmm I wonder WHY you wrote this blog. Wh...hhhmmmmmmmmmm I wonder WHY you wrote this blog. Who brought this on..I guess the world will never know ;pThe Growing of Miss. Samuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16596336689331063781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-86481972904859792122008-01-31T00:01:00.000-05:002008-01-31T00:01:00.000-05:00it actually did lift at least one or two burdens o...it actually did lift at least one or two burdens off my chest...ur a good man Brandon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-70378136054166960322008-01-30T01:55:00.000-05:002008-01-30T01:55:00.000-05:00Never heard or read you speak that way before. Con...Never heard or read you speak that way before. Considering it was just a year and 4 days ago u wrote that a lady don't know what to say or think at this point. I really want to touch bases on THIS TOPIC RIGHT HERE, face to face.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-9842445732258055612008-01-30T01:44:00.000-05:002008-01-30T01:44:00.000-05:00WOW, and to say we didnt know each other then, you...WOW, and to say we didnt know each other then, you sure do speak of Viv WELL!!! I didn't lie when I said I'd pack it up and put up my index and middle fingers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-73097357840200903982008-01-30T01:04:00.000-05:002008-01-30T01:04:00.000-05:00This was so real. I think I should have read this ...This was so real. I think I should have read this before I asked you about it earlier. You speak from the soul and IM feeling that.You change my mind....let me hold that thought.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-56331842421150722622008-01-29T01:39:00.000-05:002008-01-29T01:39:00.000-05:00You really put it out there this time...look over ...You really put it out there this time...look over the horizon because they'll be a coming outta the woodworks now LOL!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-58392530330141045462008-01-27T10:14:00.000-05:002008-01-27T10:14:00.000-05:00well said, u shout read my new post penchant 4 com...well said, u shout read my new post<BR/><BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://rawdawgb.blogspot.com/2008/01/penchant-4-committment.html" REL="nofollow"> penchant 4 commitment</A><BR/><BR/>u may like this also <A HREF="http://rawdawgb.blogspot.com/2008/01/thank-we-free.html" REL="nofollow">THANK WE FREE</A>All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-45481859804563793292008-01-26T19:25:00.000-05:002008-01-26T19:25:00.000-05:00I am so glad I read this and sooo mad Im so late (...I am so glad I read this and sooo mad Im so late (lol).<BR/>First off, sorry to say but this sitution I been in. When you are "in love" with a person 9 times out of 10 it doesnt matter about his performance in bed. If you actually get to know a person before you hop in bed with him, you find yourself falling in love more with HIM and not his SEX. <BR/>Most women will through it back in your face at time of break up, because they are hurt and you have just embarrassed them, so they are going to do anything they can to embarrass you as well. <BR/>My situation, I was knowing this guy for for 4 yrs and counting and we had never had sex within that time. When we did I was very disappointed with that area of pleasure, but it didnt matter because I was "in love" with him, for his conversation, his spiritual thoughts, the way he treated me, the way we got along, and all that other mushy stuff.But I never threw it up in his face even tho we had our problems. That just isnt me.<BR/>Got it schmoopy???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-10558903425302920642008-01-24T03:30:00.000-05:002008-01-24T03:30:00.000-05:00Im glad I talked to you on that subject that day.Y...Im glad I talked to you on that subject that day.You know me I continue to think about things way after it actually took place. I hope that..well lets just say Feb is coming very soon VERY VERY soon. A long ride away!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-54450688804037726392008-01-24T03:05:00.000-05:002008-01-24T03:05:00.000-05:00Thats because she isnt me. but that was then and t...Thats because she isnt me. but that was then and this is NOW, Im COMING TO YOU and I wont be late. Your Friend<BR/>-Viv<BR/>No drama Im just saying though.LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20755654.post-84746537160823353492008-01-23T14:31:00.000-05:002008-01-23T14:31:00.000-05:00*Faint**Faint*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com