Slow Down Heart

If there were ever a person who is happy to see others happy, it's me. I am all about positive energy and happy feelings. I believe that if someone feels that they are in a place where they want to settle down and get married or whatever, I'm not one to stop them. With all the hate that is abundant in today's world, it's nice to see that there ae people that still want to be with another person, gotta love that.

My problem is when they meet someone, the person HAS to be the one that they mary or get immensely serious with. They say "I'm in a point of my life where I want to settle down and get married and have kids," insinutating that the person they meet is going to be the one to make that happen. If the person is not with that program, they take it as an assault on their emotional clock and a backlash ensues. They see the person, feel taken in by their character, and they fill in the rest of the blanks on hopes and dreams. Then, when this person actual character clashes with the clouds that the person has put in their own mind, the confusion prompts a backlash. When the relationship goes sour, it results in scorn, and gender-hate could result.

This is where the investment is a strong quality. Everything good comes with time. A good initial lead should prompt a deeper investigation, not a closed case. We should take these things into consideration. The fairy-tale good time is all fine and dandy, but you have to know that as you grow and your love matures, it will take a different shape. Claire Huxtable said "true love begins where infatuation ends". I totally agree. Once you're not giggling at the fact that you can finish each other's sentences and sharing drinks at Wendy's, where is the relationship headed?

I believe in happily ever after, as my birth is the result of one, but it does not mean that everyday will be a fairy tale. Mad day will come. There will be days where you won't stand the thought of the person. This happens in the best of marriages. Someone who says they've never had any storms in their marriage is either lying or got married 10 minutes ago.

I implore you to think about these things. Everyone's biological clock is ticking. From the day you're born, you're already on your way to death. You never know what could happen to you in the next 5 minutes, so what is the rush for? If God wants you to have it, He will make a way. Let Him lead you, and you will find the pot of gold every time.

-B