Mess Around

"Fucking you is cool, but I'd rather fuck your friend..."

-Random Hip-Hop Lyric (or bounce, I forget)

You love to hear the story, again and again, about someone's who's falling in love with you're ol man's friend (or ol' lady as the case may be). Such a twisted and tangled web is woven. A colleague of mine was breaking down the science of how such a situation can come along and what might be the options available to that person. I was told that it boils down to three factors: your relationship status, honesty (should shit hit the fan), and the willingness of the friend.

It's a really tender issue, though. After all, a friend should not intervene in matters in which their friend may already be emotionally invested in. On the other hand, if they are NOT, is it still off limits, or are the flood gates open? Round and around we go in the circle of lust. Sometimes, it's just a sexual urge, while other times, you would see more common interests and potential for compatibility on another horizon.

It would seem that it really boils down to ethics. Ray Charles was married, but to him, he believed that there was nothing wrong with getting some nookie outside of marriage, as long as it didn't interfere with the family at home. Knowing examples like this are realistic examples, you can't make a universal law of governing over an issue so subjective.

How would you feel if someone you were feeling was feeling your friend more than you? How would you feel if you were that friend? Would things change if you were feeling them, too? All these are ponderables that might tip the scales to some people. Things that make you go "hmmmm".

-B