You See the Trouble With Me

I got a problem. I, as many people in society, want to see the best in all people and their many situations. I mean, who doesn't want to not only have the feeling of knowing that you've helped someone, but to actually HELP THEM, period. I don't feel that I am meddling, because a lot of times, it's a thing of them presenting the opinions and issues. I seem to have this inane belief that if you want to present an issue to someone, you are open to discuss it with them. If something were an editorial, then it could either be stated as such or present some indicator. I know this sounds grossly offensive in some cases, but it's a mind puzzler with some people, regarding their tones and WHAT they actually want.

Believe it or not, that's not the problem. The problem comes in when you are wondering exactly what the hell to do when your efforts to help turn you into one of the bad guys. I think that just like the people who present the problems may come in different states, the people who are there to "offer advice" may also be in different moods. I wake up sometimes, I feel like being preachy. Sometimes, I get phone calls, I feel like being preachy. People bring situations and scenarios to me that strike certain chords with me that lead me to want to talk about them. Is it a crime to want to possess an opinion as well?

The other party may not always see it that way, though. Your "opinion" may come off as being brash and boastful, though totally unintentional. You come off as being unsympathetic to their needs and more about yourself. I just spoke to someone about a particular situation, and because of me wanting to level with her, I was doing exactly what she was speaking out against. Needless to say, this lead to a ton of tension, and I just wanted nothing to do with the situation. She was left unfulfilled, and nothing was accomplished with the "talk".

Then again, where do the shrinks go? Who do they talk to? Who do they confide in?Nothing irritates me more than speaking to someone and helping them through a situation, only to have them clam up and feel unqualified to help me when I want to bring a grievance to their doorstep. Where is "being each other's crutch"? Why can't we SHARE a grievance and arrive to a solution TOGETHER?! Why does it have to be about THEM all the time? Even Dr. Melfi had a psychiatrist (a nod to The Sopranos fans). It almost HURTS to know that there are people unwilling to reciprocate a shoulder. It really sucks.

-B