Tell It Like It Is

Okay, I know I've given women a bad rap and a verbal beating on my blog before, and some of it may seem a bit one-sided. Now, don't get me wrong. I stand behind what I said, but it's not as bad and twerked as it may seem sometimes. Men have been messing up BAD, and a lot of times, the only ones who are actively speaking up about it are women. This, I believe, often leads to people women as profiling about men and complainers, when in actuality, they have a point. It also seems that a majority of the things wrong with men are Ohio Players album titles. Ehhh, coincidence is a mutha...

1. Orgasm: I think this is about the mose obvious flaw in the male gender. Being humans, we are the only animals with the ability to choose who our sex partners are. Okay, all biology aside, lemme get to the point. I HAVE NEVER been able to understand what it is about a woman's vagina that makes men do such STUPID crap! Men who will be in situations with GOOD women who worship the ground they walk on and provide them with all that they want, but they creep because 2 women > 1. Who the hell cares what happens to this woman who has put her all into making their relationship work? Who cares about all the time the people get involved? What happens if Woman 2 begins to catch feelings?
   
   I've seen men go to prison, fight, threaten, go broke, and extend themselves far beyond their means for come coochie. Denouce family members, break friendly ties, and all that for some woman they were sleeping with. So, it's okay to be territorial over someone you're sleeping on (whether you are morally able to at the time or not), but being proactively claiming someone you're in a relationship is "simping"? Confucius would have had a field day with the men of modern day. "Man who think with thing ask for trouble" would've probably been a header. Aside from porn, I cannot recall many circumstances where that has led to a positive outcome. Guys, stop worrying about gettin' some and get yourself together. Stop worrying about gettin' head and worry about getting ahead. There are TOO many opportunities to enrich your situation to spend it worrying about this one woman's vagina. Of course, to most guys, this would make me a hater for one reason or another, but damn that. Women have caught onto this perverted logic for a HOT minute now, so I'm not saying anything they haven't caught on to.
   
   Some guys will try to justify this absurd behavior under the guise of being a pimp. "I gotta get me," "God made man to sow his seed as he may," etc. THEN, these women become hoes after you deal with them (or sometimes before or AS they're dealing with them). Hmmmmm, let's see. Now, someone who consorts with hoes (or whores) without getting paid off of that woman's earnings is called a whoremonger. Lesson, fellas. Being a whoremonger is NOT a good thing. Just as a woman does not like being referred to as a ho, a man should NOT aspire to be a whoremonger. PLUS, if you are spending money on the woman to groom her to have sex, then you become a friggin' JOHN (of course, this is if you see this woman as a ho or a bitch)!! How gangsta is it to be a John?! Not only do pimps have hoes paying them, but pimps RARELY have sex with their women (read a book). A pimp is about his money, not the honey. See below for continuance.
   
   
   
2. Gold: Okay, maybe this issue is not as bad as the obsessive hunt for coochie, but the ramifications can be just as terrible. What's this issue? It's a man and his money. I will speak on this issue from two perspectives.
   
   The first perspective is a man and being tight with his money. A cliche instance of this is the guy in the club who buys a drink and feels that he owns this woman for the duration of the night. Of course, human nature would lead us to want to get a return on our investments, but paying money to justify handcuffing a human being is NOT okay. Everybody's scared of being "played", so they feel that if they don't cough up any money, there's no way to have been screwed.
   
   Yea, that's all fine and dandy, but how does this affect the women, though? It affects them because these men end up becoming overly clingy and become a 3rd nipple on a woman's chest as he tried to get a return on his investment, which could be whatever (not only sex). Of course a place like a club is like a casino, where there is NO promise on any kind of investment made on the premises, and any kind of investment made is a gamble. When you go from a mild-mannered statesman before the money and assert the role of overcontrolling boyfriend after the money, YOU are the problem.
   
   The OTHER perspective is a man's relationship with the woman's money. Yes, I'm diving into leeches now. Those who will suck up a woman's resources, run up bills in her name, destroy her credit, user her vehicle more than she does, live in her quarters (rent-free), consuming her food without replenishing it, and take advantage of this woman overall. Meanwhile, these leeches have no intentions of being with this woman, so they are living their lives, chasing other women. These other women sometimes come IN that woman's house to have relations with the leech, etc. When it all falls down, though, he leaves the situation, and the victimized woman is left in pieces. This leaves a scorned woman, leery of all men and their attempts to get close to her, because NOBODY wants to have their lives destroyed. Now granted, I can't stand a gold digger either, but a leech is JUST as bad. Leeching is NOT pimping. Pimps tell hoes that they are pimps, and the hoes understand the relationship. If you wanna be a pimp, step to her like a pimp, and let her choose you (don't be a lame, you know the game and how it goes...). Disgusting.
   
   
   
3. Pain: Okay, this one is a bit hard to explain, but y'all know I will break it down anyway. As anybody who knows their stuff will tell you, men are egotistical and women are emotional. Men think and women feel. Men have their pride and women have their feelings. Some of these men and their protection of their damn pride can lead to RAMPANT female destruction. Men feel and get hurt just like women do, but I think that it hurts just as deep as it does with women, but men are sometimes in positions that force them to internalize their pain so others can't see it. This will lead to a phenomenon known as "fronting". Journey with me...
   
   The animalistic quest to be the alphamale is very apparent in humans. Males strive to be the top of the pile to look the most appealing to the females to be the object of relationships and reproduction. Therefore, the more people that can be conquered can be perceived as power to some. The problem comes in where women become victims in the name of a bolstered ego. A conquest of any kind is a bump to your pride, so how wonderful would it be to aspire to conquer as many things as possible? It's NOT, though. People are not to be conquered, they are to be networked with. God created us equal and He set nobody above anybody (outside of parents to their children). So to go to a woman, "conquer" her in whatever way that you choose to, count her as a notch on your belt, and walk off AIN'T hot. That ain't the way you make love, homeboy.
   
   Another problem (and probably more prevalent problem) is when a man is trying to safeguard hurt pride. I believe that most men move on, but rarely forget. Men know those who have hurt them, and they know HOW they have been hurt. Men possess the capacity of becoming scorned as well, and EVERYBODY suffers (not just women). Anytime anybody comes close to hitting that crack in their pride, they become an ass and lash out. "Better that they leave you alone than let them stay and dig into you". Mental, physical, emotional abuse usually stems from some sort of internal safeguard. Dude, this is SO not cool, because you affect LIVES, not just feelings. It's HARD to sit idly by and respect anybody who beats back at anybody to the point that their whole LIVELIHOOD is negatively affected. *deep sigh* Moving on...
   
   
   
4. Contradiction: This is pretty much a continuance of all the forementioned points. Too many men nowadays are blatant contradictions, leaving the people they come in contact with confused and unwilling to deal with them. Instead of just saying "I just wanna do it", "I want a woman I can leech off", or "My history of being hurt by women in the past has hurt my pride, so expect me to be an ass to you", they try to come off as Johnny Pinache, who at first glance seems to offer the world. After all, he's put so much into this image, of COURSE it's gonna be effective. Then, as time goes by, they discover that these people are not who they thought they were, the damage has been done.
   
   Authenticity is a priceless and rare quality, which is why it's so in demand ("I want somebody REAL"). Guys need to STOP trying to be a *insert role* and focus on being themselves. There are TONS of women who would have sex with a guy who asked, but who wants to take that chance of getting rejected? Yes, women hate the feeling of rejection, but men hate it, too. Why risk being rejected for who you are when you can be accepted for who she wants you to be? That's not a problem when the two are the same, but when they are different, the two trains WILL eventually run into each other. Guys, we gotta do better.
   

Yea, that was a lot, but I'm sure many people need to know it and a lot of people need to be called out on it. Everybody is somebody's child. Everybody is intimately connected to a woman from birth, so you already know that connection. Also, the people who are guilty will feel the most offended, and to that, I say, check yourself. Hope this will lead to movements in the right direction.

-B