Try To Leave Me If You Can (I Bet You Can't Do It)

Let's face it: getting over something or letting it go is a very hard thing to do. This is bad enough, What can complicate matters more is when you're in a relationship and it's ctime to let go, but you can't. You feel something holding you there that may or may not be good for you. Then, the other person sees your inability to leave and uses it against you. Soon, you become the butt of their life and you become emotional padding for them. They pull you in when they want something from you, and leave you to dangle on a string of false hope when they're done. When you realize that they are an asshole (which frequently happens), they DARE you to leave them, knowing you can't.

I tell you, human nature is a monster sometimes. It's far too easy to put the blinders on so that we can't see beyond what we want. Too often is it just about us and what we want and who we want to give it to us. It's fun being the dangler, but hanging is no fun. How easy we forget how it feels to dangle when we have the opportunity to dangle another innocent person.

Baby daddies, baby mammas, all that. I just hate the negative connotations associated with that term. It just gives off this "no-good" vibe, as if the person is incapable of being anything more than that title. Not "my child's mother/father" but "my baby daddy". Sounds HIDEOUSLY ignorant. Call him a sperm donor, call him a deadbeat, but not "baby daddy." If y'all can't get along, make sure he's in your life for the child, but don't keep playing games with each other. The only one that truly loses is the child. Step outside of your box just enough to see beyond your own life and see that you're poisoning the next generation. So then, when you become old, you can't sit on your porch, because some parentally deprived thug is engaging in a wide-open gunfight.

-B